*Let me preface this by saying these are entirely my
thoughts and opinions based on my experiences so far in Bordeaux. I'm
not looking to offend, just presenting my feelings at this point in
time, which are always subject to change. Also, a little warning that I
may have gotten a bit longwinded and I do jump all over the place,
perhaps because I wrote this over the course of three days.
Today marks one year since I landed, exhausted and
jet-lagged, in Bordeaux. And so in honor of my one-year Bordelais
anniversary, I thought I would do a post about my overall thoughts, impressions
and reflections on this city I now call home.
I’ve always had a sneaking suspicion that Lionel and I would
one day call Bordeaux home, primarily based on the fact that most of his family
lives in this area. And while I always
thought that it would one day happen, I never really looked forward to
that. Overall, this is probably the area
of France
I’ve always felt least corresponded to my personality, character and
preferences. It’s not that I didn’t like
Bordeaux or the
region, but I didn’t love it either…truth be told, I didn’t have a lot of
feelings at all about this city. So,
when we decided to move back to France
and realized that we would be going to Bordeaux
I started making lists in my head of all the positive aspects of Bordeaux and the area to
try to psyche myself up and really get excited about calling this city
home. And here I am, a year after
arriving, and I can’t say that my thoughts or feelings have really
changed. When it comes to Bordeaux I generally just
feel indifferent.
See, with Paris
I had a very love-hate relationship.
There are so many things I love about Paris and so many things I still miss, but
there are also a lot of things that I hate and reasons why I know moving back
wouldn’t be a good idea. But I have
never felt indifferent to Paris. I feel very strongly about Paris
whereas I just don’t feel much of anything about Bordeaux.
I like it fine enough, I haven’t really found anything I hate, but I
can’t say there is anything I really love about this city. I can think of quite a few other French
cities I would choose before Bordeaux,
but also a few I would never want to live in.
I can’t pinpoint it exactly, but there is something about Bordeaux that just
creates a lack of feelings in me (if that is even possible). Or maybe I still just haven't figured out how I really feel about this city.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I don’t think Bordeaux is a horrible place, on the
contrary, overall I’m happy here.
However, whenever someone asks me how I’m liking Bordeaux, I struggle to find an answer or to
come up with anything to say, positive or negative. I just can’t seem to form an overall opinion. Yes, it is quite pretty, especially in the
historical center, but I hate the Garonne and how wide, dangerous and ugly it
is, cutting Bordeaux
in half with no charm or life. It feels
more like a barrier than an integral part of the city. Bordeaux’s location can be quite convenient
with easy access to the beach and mountains along with lots to explore within a
2ish hour drive – Spain, the beautiful Dordogne region, Pays Basque, Toulouse,
La Rochelle and the nearby islands, chateaux, vineyards, etc. The list really goes on and on. But at the same time, I’m much more interested
in Germany, Belgium and Eastern Europe than Spain and Spanish culture (nothing against Spain, it’s just my preference) and from Bordeaux it is quite
difficult and expensive to travel to any of the other European countries that
really interest me. And I don’t ski so
the mountains in the winter are basically my nightmare. Though I will never complain about having the
beach only a 45 minute drive away.
Travel, that is a big issue for me here in Bordeaux.
I feel like you can’t go anywhere from the Bordeaux airport without paying an arm and a
leg and making multiple changes. Gone
are my days of hopping the next inexpensive EasyJet flight to Eastern
Europe. Now I’m going to
have to content myself with the countries that match my personality the least –
Spain and Portugal. Of course, I can also get to Italy fairly
easily, but a lot of the possible destinations are places I’ve already been
multiple times. I suppose I could always
plan one hell of a European road trip to get to some of my preferred and/or
dream destinations. Or hope that Lionel
and I win the lottery one day, which should be quite difficult considering the
fact that we don’t play.
Then there is public transportation in Bordeaux.
Apparently it is quite the hassle to get to the airport, should I ever
actually have plans to travel. And while
the tram is very nice and new and clean, it is slow and there are only three
lines so there are a lot of places you can’t get to without either a car or a
lot of time to transfer to another tram or multiple buses. From what I’ve heard I should be thankful I
live within 15 minutes walking distance of a tram stop though, so there is
that. And luckily, since I don’t have to
leave the house for work, our tram line takes me straight into the center of
Bordeaux and through the administrative district, so it pretty much gets me
everywhere I need to go directly, except the train station. The Bordeaux
tram system is also quite refreshing after the Paris metro. I can usually get a seat, people aren’t
constantly pushing and shoving each other, beggars aren’t harassing me left and
right and people are actually polite and will give up their seats to the
elderly, the injured, children and pregnant women. It’s quite shocking!
I have found some very nice restaurants and some bars and
cafés that I quite enjoy, but the lack of reasonably priced Asian food is
starting to make Lionel and I go mad. I
don’t know what we would have done if we hadn’t found the Asian grocery store
out at Bordeaux Lac making it possible to recreate most of our favorites in our
own kitchen. Plus I’m still exploring
and I’m sure I’ll find other restaurants to enjoy. I also enjoy that there are quite a few
things to do in and around Bordeaux,
though I wish there were some more interesting museums.
However, one of my biggest issues with Bordeaux would have to be the wine bars. Now, if you are like me, when you think of Bordeaux the first thing
that comes to mind is wine. I mean, Bordeaux is basically the
wine capital of the entire world. So,
naturally, I expected to come here and have a plethora of fabulous wine bars at
my fingertips. What I didn’t expect was that
every one I would go into would require you to purchase some sort of food along
with your wine. I mean, really!?! Perhaps I’m not hungry. Perhaps I just want a glass (or bottle) of
wine. Perhaps I was just planning to
stop in for an aperitif before dinner elsewhere. Or perhaps I just want to grab an after
dinner drink and am too stuffed from said dinner to eat any more food. And perhaps, with all of those perhapses, I
just wanted to be able to go somewhere with a great selection of wine to have
that drink. I mean, this is Bordeaux, shouldn’t I be
able to have a glass of wine without having to buy food? On a side note, if anyone who is reading
this knows Bordeaux well and knows of wine bars in the center that don’t
require the consumption of food, please leave a message!
And since this awful discovery about the wine bars of Bordeaux (or at least
every one I’ve been to so far), I’ve also noticed the same problem present
itself in some other bars and cafés.
Especially when they are in a nice location. Like on the quais, or Place St. Pierre. Is it really not possible to enjoy an alcoholic
beverage with a nice view without eating something? Or is it just me and I go to all the wrong
places? Though honestly, along the quais
I’ve found both with and without food options, but as far as I can figure you
can only have a drink on the beautiful Place St. Pierre if you are eating. And with policies like these how is it that
the Bordelais don’t all weight 100+ kilos? This is the city of wine people, just let it
flow free without any rules or regulations!
And on the subject of wine, I’m ashamed to admit it (and so
please don’t tell on me) but I’m really not a huge fan of Bordeaux wines. I mean, I’ll drink them, don’t get me wrong,
I’m not crazy or anything. But they are
not at the top of my list of preferences.
Hell, they don’t even make it in the top 5. Give me anything from the Val de Loire and
I’ll be a happy camper (and so will my wallet).
However, I would never admit this to a Bordelais for fear of being
thrown out of the city immediately. In Bordeaux they sure do
love their wines (though only with food apparently)! Better to not insult them and if you are
invited over to anyone’s house here in Bordeaux,
it is definitely best to bring a bottle of Bordeaux.
Though sometimes I don’t just to spite them and their wine
snobbery! Even at the supermarket I am
pretty much always the only person in the wine aisle not looking for a bottle
in the enormous and imposing Bordeaux
section. Nope, I inconspicuously make my
little American way over to the Loire section,
or sometimes Rhône if I feel like a change, and happily pick out one of my
preferences, though each and every time I feel like I should hide my head and
be ashamed of myself. However, slowly
but surely I’m learning more about the Bordeaux wines, and who knows, maybe one
day I might turn into a Bordeaux wine snob as well. Until then I will definitely at least enjoy
the pleasing sight of vineyards everywhere you turn.
Overall the Bordelais seem to be quite nice, despite their
affinity for mocking my accent and their wine snobbery and I’ve been pleasantly
surprised by most of my administrative encounters (though I hope I’m not
putting my foot in my mouth as I still haven’t had my interview with the
préfecture for my naturalization request). I also like the fact that people don’t wear as
much black as in Paris,
and I’ve been noticing the influence on my wardrobe. I certainly can’t complain about the weather
in Bordeaux and I enjoy having such easy access
to nature and outdoor activities, something that always was an issue for me
living in Paris.
I would have to say Bordeaux is probably overall a better size
city for me. It still has the culture,
restaurants and amenities of a city without being as stressful. And well, Rasteau absolutely loves it here
and since he’s our baby that is definitely important. Though I could do without some of his furry
escapades!
Nonetheless I’m a bit disappointed in how difficult it has
been to find friends here. While I’ve
met a few people that I see on a regular basis and with whom I quite enjoy
spending my time, by the end of June they will pretty much all have left Bordeaux, leaving me to
start all over again. Luckily we still
have Lionel’s friend and his wife who live here and their group of friends who
are all quite nice giving us at least some sort of permanent social life. But I still want to make my own friends. People who I choose to spend my time with
because I met them on my own and we clicked and really enjoy each others’
company, have common interests, are in similar situations, etc. Not just people who, in a way (and not to
sound mean or anything because they are all very nice, we just don’t have a lot
in common for the most part), I am sorta forced to socialize with. And luckily we also have a lot of Lionel’s
family to see as well, so we are not entirely alone. It’s just, I need friends of my own as well,
people I can relate to more and who can relate to me. And I’ve pretty much given up on meeting
other Americans here…I’m just not having any luck no matter how hard I
try! Even the American bar, which would
be a surefire bet in Paris,
didn’t prove fruitful. Le sigh.
Regardless, I do appreciate the beauty of the city center,
full of winding streets, beautiful churches and historic buildings. And, even though it may not be my first pick,
I’ve enjoyed having the chance to explore a new place. While part of my frustration may be a direct
consequence of my precarious social life and the fact that we don’t actually
live in Bordeaux
but in les banlieues proches, we do still have people to see, things to do and
places to go. And our less-than-central
location at least provides quick and easy access to a lot of stores and the
highway for speedy escapes when we want to get out of town. Though unfortunately a lot of this requires
driving, which we all know I am less than keen to do in France.
Overall I have to admit that I’m quite happy with my life
right now, which I suppose just goes to show you that happiness doesn’t
entirely depend on where you live. Or
perhaps it’s just the peace of living somewhere that doesn’t inspire heated,
passionate feelings of love and hate. Maybe
it’s that lack of strong sentiments and quick fire reactions that I need…that
overall feeling of indifference. I feel
like I’ve learned a lot in the past few years with our numerous international
moves and I think I’ve finally come to understand exactly how I want to live my
life and what is going to make me the happiest. And while I wouldn’t currently say I’m
thrilled to live in Bordeaux,
I would definitely say I’m OK with it. I
find myself being more optimistic than in the past and I’m trying to focus more
on the pros. While I do just feel
indifferent to this city at the moment, I do realize it has a lot to offer and
that it is a perfectly fine place to live.
I also realize that nothing is forcing us to stay here forever and you
never know what life will bring. Perhaps,
with time, I will begin to feel more of an affinity for this place. Or maybe one day we will move again and who
knows, in the future I might just end up in one of cities that really attract
me and fit more with my personality. So
until my dreams of Tours or Strasbourg
come true I’m feeling good about working to build my life in Bordeaux, hell I’m even looking forward to it.
In the end I suppose that feeling
indifferent really isn’t that bad, just as long as people stop asking me how I
feel about Bordeaux!
